321 Days have passes since we arrived in sunny California. This time last summer we were busy winding down from Mission Possible and getting ready for the madness of July: VBS, MC2 Camp, Game Nights, Bowling Trips, Mission Nights, softball games, and all the spontaneous fun that summer youth ministry brings. Parts of us still deeply miss those things. We miss the known. We miss the youth. We miss the families that we grew to love so deeply! However, we are continuously grateful for our West Coast adventure. Since we have come all this way, we decided early on to make the most of our time out here. With such a decision in the forefront of our minds, we decided to kick our summer off with a couple trips. Allow us to fill you in:
My (Megan) classes ended June 15. After completing my first year of doctoral studies I was ready for a break from the reading, studying, and researching for a bit (I have summer assignments to do). With a break needed we headed off to San Diego on June 17. We spent the day at the San Diego Safari Park Zoo. It was so nice to spend the day together. We rode the tram around the animal park and saw tons of cool animals. It’s the closest thing to an African Safari we’ve ever been on. We also walked around the park and checked out all the exhibits. It was a great day!
Shortly after our zoo adventure we packed up and headed east to Vegas. Since Chris had to work on our 4th Anniversary he planned the whole Vegas trip as an Anniversary surprise. Those of you that know me (Megan) well know I HATE surprises. I have to have a plan and I have to know the plan. However, he was relentless and would not divulge details. I knew we were going to Vegas but knew little more than that.
Upon our arrival we checked into the Luxor Hotel (it’s the pyramid shaped hotel) and changed to head down to the strip. We ate dinner at an Italian restaurant at the MGM and then saw the Jabbawockeez perform. It was awesome. (They are a dance crew if you’re not familiar with them).
The next day we got up early and walked around Vegas. We visited the Venetian Hotel and rode the famous Gondola ride. It was nice. (Side note: the couple that rode with us was celebrating their 25th Anniversary). We also walked around the Bellagio Hotel and toured an art exhibit in the hotel. That hotel was HUGE! We then headed back to our hotel for lunch and some down time before the big surprise.
Around 3pm we got ready and Chris informed me that we would be going to the Grand Canyon---via helicopter! I was so excited! It was an amazing trip. I’m convinced it is the only way to see the Grand Canyon. We flew over the Hoover Dam and right into the Canyon. It was awesome. God truly is the artist of all artists. It was a sight to see. I could have stayed there all day enjoying the beauty of it all! After taking a million pictures we enjoyed a picnic and then flew back to Vegas.
Our final evening in Vegas we walked around the strip, visited some additional hotels, and saw the Bellagio water/lights show. We concluded our evening with a ride on the Vegas Monorail. That was an experience. We have a really funny story of a lady we had the pleasure of accompanying on our ride back to the hotel. But words on a page just won’t do it justice. We die laughing every time we hear the word “monorail” now.
Wednesday morning we made the 4 hour drive back to CA. The rest of our summer will include Chris going to a conference, taking classes, Megan’s family visiting, Haley and Jay’s wedding in OH, and surely plenty of other adventures. We’ll keep you posted! What are your summer plans? We’d love to hear from all of you.
--Megan
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Saturday, June 25, 2011
Thursday, February 10, 2011
A Different Kind of Education
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| Megan, Mr. & Mrs. Temple, and Emily at Kerri and Tim's wedding. |
She was born the oldest, only daughter, of five children. Her parents divorced when she was in elementary school. She moved more times than I can accurately account. She endured her teenage years in less than desirable circumstances with an alcoholic stepfather. She met a tall red-headed bag boy at the local grocery store at age fifteen. A few years later she graduated high school and got married to that bag boy a few months later. She entered the work force and within five years, after my birth, filled the role of stay-at-home-mom. Obviously, I spent countless hours with her. She taught me how to say my ABC’s, write my name, recognize colors, and countless other things. She even read my favorite book, Martha’s House, so many times that I had it memorized by age three or four and she thought I could read it (yeah, I’ve been fooling people for years). As I reflect upon my mother I can rarely remember a time that she was not reading something. She loved to read and still does. Her love of reading, study, and the world has led to her vast knowledge base. While she has never set foot in a college classroom she knows more than many college graduates. Let me be clear: if I were going to be on a trivia based game show like, “Who Wants to be a Millionaire,” she would be at the top of my phone-a-friend list.
We are all on a specific path in life. Each path is distinctly different. Educationally speaking, God places each of us in a different place. Sure, we should all seek to be continual learners; however, for some people this does not mean additional formal education. Some are supposed to work right after high school, some are supposed to go to a trade/technical school, some are supposed to go to college, some are supposed to go on to graduate school, medical school, law school, or some other form of higher education, and some are supposed to be parents right away. In the end, the formal education story we have to tell is not as important as the educational journey we are on. Some of the most learned, wise, knowledgeable people I know have never taken a single class beyond high school! Education comes in many forms.
Lately, I have been reflecting on where my path has taken me. Many of my friends are done with school, have full-time jobs, have purchased homes, and have started families. Sometimes I wonder why my path is so different. I wonder if I am going in the right direction. And, sometimes (ok–often), I am a bit jealous of their lives.
This week in one of my classes the professor offered the following bit of his personal story for encouragement. He told us how he too, as a young graduate student, felt inferior to others around him with full-time teaching positions. However, he stressed not to worry. God has placed us on our particular paths. We have no need to complain, apologize, or doubt that which we cannot control. God has a plan. God will guide. As my professor encouraged: your path, as long as you are following the Lord in obedience, is the perfect path for you.
So, in light of my constant self-doubt and uncertainty I am reminded that God has a plan. My path is not exactly “traditional” or just how I imagined it would be—but it is mine. I am assured that the desires of my heart will be fulfilled in God’s good time. I will, one day, have a full-time job, my own home, and a family. For now, I am privileged to be a part of a Ph.D. program and have wonderful friends and family behind me as I “endure” this formal education process of my journey!
--Megan
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
The Joy of Reading: Sustainable Youth Ministry by Mark DeVries
Mark DeVries and I have never met face-to-face; however, I know we’d be best friends! He believes in the same kind of youth ministry I believe in and even uses the term I thought my New Pleasant students coined, “youth family.”
In the book he addresses everything from documents you need within a youth ministry, to how to create the right atmosphere, to how to keep the ministry going with or without a hired youth director. Everything from the behind the scenes details to the wide open in front of everyone details are addressed. It is a great handbook for those that oversee the hiring, evaluating, and “firing” of staff. And it’s a great text for youth pastors to read too.
In light of all my reading, particularly within the youth ministry field, and stories I have heard from NPBC I have been encouraged. I walked away from my ministry at NPBC in August tired, weary, and feeling as though I failed in so many ways. I felt I did not clearly cast my vision, prepare my team, train mentors and volunteers effectively, or show my students what it means to be a “family,” see a need and meet it, and follow God at all costs. However, in taking a God-required sabbatical from youth ministry to pursue further education I have been refreshed, encouraged, and revived. In fact, many of the things I did were right! I was by no means perfect, but for a first-timer I was on the right track. I learned a great deal of valuable lessons during my time at NPBC and I have gained even more since I arrived at Talbot. If, and when, God does call me to church ministry I feel better prepared and encouraged that I do have something to contribute. I am foundationally skilled at transforming a ministry from frail and floundering to faithful and “family-like.”
Buy Sustainable Youth Ministry
--Megan
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
The Joy of Reading: Deep Ministry in a Shallow World by Chap Clark and Kara E. Powell
She is so right.
Often churches realize they need change and instead implement more of what they already have and call it something new! Or, we hear that our friend down the street is doing x and it’s working great so we assume it will work for us too; however, too often we get jealous of our friends successful ministries and instead of celebrating their successes we wallow in our failures. As ministers we must do better about that! Finally, we are all guilty of reading a great book with great programs, ideas, concepts, and ministry plans and trying to steal its ideas. Never mind the fact that the book was about a multi-million dollar mega-church with a $200,000 youth budget, 500 students, 15 support staff, in the middle of Los Angeles and we work off a $2000 budget, have twelve students, no support staff, and are located in the middle of nowhere. We need to get real. We need to realistically address our situation and take what we have and make it all God expects, desires, and calls our ministry to be.
The whole book is about a “plan” to take ministries from shallow to deep. Kara and Chap suggest that we follow four steps (25):
1. Now--discernment
2. New--reflection
3. Who--observation
4. How--application
They address the plan in accordance to discipleship, assets, mentoring, parents, communication/teaching, missions, worship, and expectations. Along the way they offer suggestions, examples, and possible pitfalls. This book is an all around asset to youth ministry! I really enjoyed reading it.
Buy Deep Ministry in a Shallow World by Chap Clark and Kara E. Powell
--Megan
Monday, February 7, 2011
Reading During the Super Bowl
I mean really, who finishes reading a book during THE GAME?
The “Super Bowl” just isn’t the “Super Bowl” without a house full of teenagers, children, and their families. This year was quite different from years past. Chris and I sat in the living room all alone (even Mo didn’t join us). I made popcorn and read a book while watching the game and Chris fried some mushrooms and zucchini. It was rather anti-climatic. There was no checking stats at half-time to award door prizes, no arguing over the last snacks, no random hall sliding, no laughter, no opening devotion, nothing. It felt strange. Calm. Quiet. Empty. Lonely. I mean really, who finishes reading a book during the game?
I missed the friendly taunting that takes place as one group’s team scores to take the lead or an exciting play arouses the group with cheers, boos, and chatter. I missed printing off 15+ guessing sheets and shopping for silly prizes. I missed cooking wings, chicken nuggets, mini-pizzas, cookies, brownies, and other goodies all afternoon. I missed that sick feeling you get from eating way to much junk food in the place of a decent dinner and following it with incessant, uncontrollable laughter. I missed cleaning up half the night following the party. In short, I missed the chaos.
This year was just different. I watched the game. Worked on some homework. Did P90X. Ate dinner. Got ready for bed. Wrote this post. And went to bed . . . Thinking of all the people and all the fun I so deeply missed. How I cherish those memories!
--Megan
The “Super Bowl” just isn’t the “Super Bowl” without a house full of teenagers, children, and their families. This year was quite different from years past. Chris and I sat in the living room all alone (even Mo didn’t join us). I made popcorn and read a book while watching the game and Chris fried some mushrooms and zucchini. It was rather anti-climatic. There was no checking stats at half-time to award door prizes, no arguing over the last snacks, no random hall sliding, no laughter, no opening devotion, nothing. It felt strange. Calm. Quiet. Empty. Lonely. I mean really, who finishes reading a book during the game?
I missed the friendly taunting that takes place as one group’s team scores to take the lead or an exciting play arouses the group with cheers, boos, and chatter. I missed printing off 15+ guessing sheets and shopping for silly prizes. I missed cooking wings, chicken nuggets, mini-pizzas, cookies, brownies, and other goodies all afternoon. I missed that sick feeling you get from eating way to much junk food in the place of a decent dinner and following it with incessant, uncontrollable laughter. I missed cleaning up half the night following the party. In short, I missed the chaos.
This year was just different. I watched the game. Worked on some homework. Did P90X. Ate dinner. Got ready for bed. Wrote this post. And went to bed . . . Thinking of all the people and all the fun I so deeply missed. How I cherish those memories!
--Megan
The Joy of Reading: Youth Pastor: The Theology and Practice of Youth Ministry by Houston Heflin
Youth Pastor: The Theology and Practice of Youth Ministry by Houston Heflin is a text I ran across while perusing Amazon. I have been interested in reading up on Youth and Young Adult ministry texts so I quickly ordered and devoured it. It was a short book but packed with great info. Heflin offers five units in the book that overview the tasks of youth ministry and the necessary roles of a youth ministry. It was a great little book and would prove very helpful if I teach an “Intro to Youth Ministry” class (which I hope to do) in the future. I may come back and add more information on this book later---I have currently submitted a formal book review to AYME on this text--hopefully, you can read my take on it there. If you aren't able to read it there one day, I'll be sure to post it here!
Buy Youth Pastor: The Theology and Practice of Youth Ministry
--Megan
Buy Youth Pastor: The Theology and Practice of Youth Ministry
--Megan
Sunday, February 6, 2011
The Joy of Reading: Sun Stand Still by Steven Furtick
Sun Stand Still by Steven Furtick is a less-scholarly book (no offensive Steven). It is all about faith, vision, prayer, and spiritual prowess. Steven challenges us all to pray with certainty that God can and will act. The whole premise of the book is based on Joshua’s “Sun Stand Still” prayer in the Old Testament. (If you’re not familiar with the story check it out in Joshua 10). Throughout the book Steven offers stories of his life, those he ministers alongside, and those he has been privileged to minister to. He offers a five step “plan” toward our own “Sun Stand Still” prayers. Instead of giving it all away---help my buddy out and purchase the book! It is a quick and easy, yet, challenging read. It will challenge your faith and renew your soul.
Buy Sun Stand Still
--Megan
Saturday, February 5, 2011
The Joy of Reading: New Light on the Difficult Words of Jesus by David Bivin
Over the course of the last month I have been able to do something I have not had time to do in . . . well, longer than I can remember. After the completion of my January term class and the literature review assigned I had the privilege of reading books I wanted to read. Here are the books I read:
The first book is an excellent read! If you are not familiar with David Bivin you should look him up. His take on Jesus’ words, teachings, sayings, and the biblical text is incredible. He lived and worked in Jerusalem for more than forty years studying with both Christian and Jewish scholars. He has carefully studied Jewish culture, history, language, and a host of other things. While the book is sprinkled with tons of interesting insights and I could go on for pages I’ll just mention a few things you may find of interest.
1. Many people suggest that Jesus was not a Rabbi; however, countless passages in scripture suggest otherwise. Furthermore, all kinds of people addressed Jesus as “Rabbi.” As Bivin points out in the text, “a lawyer, rich man, Pharisees, Sadducees, and regular people address Jesus by such a title” (9). In addition to the title Jesus’ lifestyle was consistent with the “normal” rabbi’s of his time. Rabbi’s, or itinerant rabbi’s, were travelers. They were like itinerant preachers today. They traveled around from place to place teaching. Their disciples followed--being “covered in the dust of their rabbi” (13-14). And many rabbi’s also had trade skills---like carpentry, fishing, tent making, etc. Pretty interesting, huh? This concept totally slams what Roy Zuck claims in his book, Teaching as Jesus Taught (however, it is a good book as far as Christian Ed. is concerned).
2. We Christians often bless our food . . . This custom that we believe has been borrowed from Judaism and Jesus is flawed. Offering a blessing before meals has been customary for centuries; however, blessing the food is new. Bivin points out that the original custom was to bless God by stating, “bless the One who provides the food” (46). Our blessing of the food we eat is just one of the many ways we have misunderstood and misinterpreted a Jewish custom. So, the next time you sit down to eat--think about what you are doing and why you are doing it. Blessing food is not a biblical concept. Blessing the One who provided the food---that is more like it.
3. If you know Jewish practices well you know that followers of Judaism are supposed to pray daily. A central Jewish prayer is know as the Eighteen, or more formally as Shemoneh Esreh, or Amidah, or Tefillah (59). However, some rabbi’s would give their worshippers a shortened version of the eighteen for times when it was not possible to complete the full prayer (however, a fluent Hebrew-speaking Jew could complete the prayer in about five-ten minutes) (59). Nonetheless, it may be quite feasible that Jesus offered an abbreviated version for his followers as well. We call it: The Lord’s Prayer. After reviewing the information Bivin offers in the book, including the full Eighteen prayer, I am fairly convinced of this premise. I wish I had discovered this information several years ago when my church focused VBS on the Lord’s Prayer. I believe the learning experience would have been greatly enriched for the youth with this info.
Buy New Light on the Difficult Words of Jesus
Check for the rest of the book overviews throughout the week!
--Megan
New Light on the Difficult Words of Jesus by David Bivin
Sun Stand Still by Steven Furtick (I sort-of know him)
Youth Pastor: The Theology and Practice of Youth Ministry by Houston Heflin
Deep Ministry in a Shallow World by Chap Clark and Kara E. Powell
Sustainable Youth Ministry by Mark DeVries
1. Many people suggest that Jesus was not a Rabbi; however, countless passages in scripture suggest otherwise. Furthermore, all kinds of people addressed Jesus as “Rabbi.” As Bivin points out in the text, “a lawyer, rich man, Pharisees, Sadducees, and regular people address Jesus by such a title” (9). In addition to the title Jesus’ lifestyle was consistent with the “normal” rabbi’s of his time. Rabbi’s, or itinerant rabbi’s, were travelers. They were like itinerant preachers today. They traveled around from place to place teaching. Their disciples followed--being “covered in the dust of their rabbi” (13-14). And many rabbi’s also had trade skills---like carpentry, fishing, tent making, etc. Pretty interesting, huh? This concept totally slams what Roy Zuck claims in his book, Teaching as Jesus Taught (however, it is a good book as far as Christian Ed. is concerned).
2. We Christians often bless our food . . . This custom that we believe has been borrowed from Judaism and Jesus is flawed. Offering a blessing before meals has been customary for centuries; however, blessing the food is new. Bivin points out that the original custom was to bless God by stating, “bless the One who provides the food” (46). Our blessing of the food we eat is just one of the many ways we have misunderstood and misinterpreted a Jewish custom. So, the next time you sit down to eat--think about what you are doing and why you are doing it. Blessing food is not a biblical concept. Blessing the One who provided the food---that is more like it.
3. If you know Jewish practices well you know that followers of Judaism are supposed to pray daily. A central Jewish prayer is know as the Eighteen, or more formally as Shemoneh Esreh, or Amidah, or Tefillah (59). However, some rabbi’s would give their worshippers a shortened version of the eighteen for times when it was not possible to complete the full prayer (however, a fluent Hebrew-speaking Jew could complete the prayer in about five-ten minutes) (59). Nonetheless, it may be quite feasible that Jesus offered an abbreviated version for his followers as well. We call it: The Lord’s Prayer. After reviewing the information Bivin offers in the book, including the full Eighteen prayer, I am fairly convinced of this premise. I wish I had discovered this information several years ago when my church focused VBS on the Lord’s Prayer. I believe the learning experience would have been greatly enriched for the youth with this info.
Buy New Light on the Difficult Words of Jesus
Check for the rest of the book overviews throughout the week!
--Megan
Saturday, January 22, 2011
Internship
“Ask and you shall receive.” A few weeks ago I posted an update chronicling 2010 reflections. In the post I mentioned how nice it has been to have a break from ministry, teaching, and church responsibilities; however, toward the end of the post I stated, “This year, let’s hope he [God] has plans for me to find a ministry/teaching position and get back to doing what I love; but, I’m grateful for the rest, vacation, and time for reflection.”
In recent weeks God has been hard at work! While I have been reading, researching, and working on my literature review God has been orchestrating an internship for me. After meeting with my new advisor last month I was informed that I should try to organize an internship for earlier in my program than I was previously advised . . . I was planning to do my internship at the end of the program (as suggested by the program director); however, my new advisor said she thinks that is a crazy idea with all the requirements that come in the last semester of course work looking forward to the candidacy process and dissertation proposal.
So, as advised I talked with another professor and emailed all of the people suggested. In the end, an undergraduate professor is teaching a Youth Ministry course this Spring---and I’m going to help! I’m excited about the opportunity but I’m also terrified. I’ve never taught college students. Teaching middle school=no big deal---teaching college students=big deal! What I say can affect the future of their lives, ministries, and all the kids they will teach. (Don’t hear me wrong---teaching middle school is important and teachers affect the lives of middle schoolers, but it’s a different level. Middle school kids will have a lot more teachers to straighten out all the wrong stuff you tell them before they hit the streets and start making adult decisions).
On Monday January 31, 2011 I will be walking into the classroom of a college level course to co-teach students how to be effective youth ministers! I ask that you pray for me, the students, and the poor professor that agreed to this madness! We will be in class every Monday night from 4:30-6:30 from January through the end of May! I’ll let you know how it goes!
--Megan
In recent weeks God has been hard at work! While I have been reading, researching, and working on my literature review God has been orchestrating an internship for me. After meeting with my new advisor last month I was informed that I should try to organize an internship for earlier in my program than I was previously advised . . . I was planning to do my internship at the end of the program (as suggested by the program director); however, my new advisor said she thinks that is a crazy idea with all the requirements that come in the last semester of course work looking forward to the candidacy process and dissertation proposal.
So, as advised I talked with another professor and emailed all of the people suggested. In the end, an undergraduate professor is teaching a Youth Ministry course this Spring---and I’m going to help! I’m excited about the opportunity but I’m also terrified. I’ve never taught college students. Teaching middle school=no big deal---teaching college students=big deal! What I say can affect the future of their lives, ministries, and all the kids they will teach. (Don’t hear me wrong---teaching middle school is important and teachers affect the lives of middle schoolers, but it’s a different level. Middle school kids will have a lot more teachers to straighten out all the wrong stuff you tell them before they hit the streets and start making adult decisions).
On Monday January 31, 2011 I will be walking into the classroom of a college level course to co-teach students how to be effective youth ministers! I ask that you pray for me, the students, and the poor professor that agreed to this madness! We will be in class every Monday night from 4:30-6:30 from January through the end of May! I’ll let you know how it goes!
--Megan
Did You Know?
For those of you that facebook stalk me, you already know this . . . Over the course of the past few weeks I have been researching and reading a lot about young adults, youth ministries, and church-based retention strategies for a literature review project. This project is an assignment from my week-long class earlier this month. For those of you that may not be familiar with literature reviews---the purpose is to identify a problem, issue, or concern in your area of interest; in my case, youth and young adult ministry. After identifying the problem you then research scholarly articles, current findings, and uncover possible solutions to the problem through the literature review process. In my research, I have found some really great stuff! Some of the information I’ve read I already knew, had a hunch, or just good common sense leads you to such conclusions; however, I’ve also read some stuff that was quite interesting. Let me teach you a little about what I’ve discovered . . . .
While pouring over journal article after journal article and monograph after monograph (books) I found myself deeply encouraged and deeply hurt. I was encouraged by the ministries and families I have been a part of and witnessed that work hard to do the very things mentioned. But, at the same time I was hurt by how many ministries and families are failing because they will not open their eyes and change.
With the above in mind, did you know . . . seventy percent of young adults no longer attend church? That leaves only 30 percent active in church life! Among teenagers, nearly 90 percent stress the importance of religion, church attendance, and spirituality. Furthermore, 95 percent of teenagers believe in God! Those are encouraging numbers! And, “fifty percent of teenagers report attending church in the last week; however, only thirty-five percent of young adults between the ages of 18 and 29 report attending church in the past week” (Lindsay, 2003).
Did you know parents are ranked the highest among young adults in regard to religious influence? Parents have the greatest influence upon their children when it comes to church involvement---that’s right parents, they do hear you, see you, and follow you---even if they pretend not to notice what’s going on!
Did you know young adults that were raised by seemingly non-caring, over protective parents rank the highest in church dropout? Yeah, I know you’re thinking of all the kids you knew growing up that had THAT MOM . . . and they don’t go to church anymore do they? I know---I thought of those families too.
Did you know you’re mom was right when she told you, “You are what you hang out with!”? Young adults that lack good, quality, faith-minded, church-going friends are more likely to skip out on church.
Did you know how important mentorship and discipleship really are? Today’s young adults that had meaningful relationships with 2 or more adults that intentionally cared about them, poured into them, and loved them during teenage years are more likely to attend church as young adults.
Did you know youth groups that incorporate true community, a family feel, spiritual depth, and focus on quality spiritual formation reap the most retention benefits? And, young adults that attended youth groups that fostered the things listed above are more likely to remain faithful to the church.
Did you know young adult’s needs are not all that drastically different from teenagers needs? Both groups are looking for meaningful relationships, ways to live out their faith, genuine worship, and a walk that matches the talk. Young adults and teens are looking for the real deal! Too bad tons of churches don’t offer the real deal!
The “did you knows” could go on forever . . . but think about it. If you go to church do you intentionally set an example that shows the younger generations around you that Christ is in you, he is real, he meets needs, and he is worth living for? Do you mentor others? Do you live the way Christ has called us to live? Do you seek ministry opportunities? Do you? Does your church? How many young adults are still active in your church’s ministry? Just think about it.
--Megan
While pouring over journal article after journal article and monograph after monograph (books) I found myself deeply encouraged and deeply hurt. I was encouraged by the ministries and families I have been a part of and witnessed that work hard to do the very things mentioned. But, at the same time I was hurt by how many ministries and families are failing because they will not open their eyes and change.
With the above in mind, did you know . . . seventy percent of young adults no longer attend church? That leaves only 30 percent active in church life! Among teenagers, nearly 90 percent stress the importance of religion, church attendance, and spirituality. Furthermore, 95 percent of teenagers believe in God! Those are encouraging numbers! And, “fifty percent of teenagers report attending church in the last week; however, only thirty-five percent of young adults between the ages of 18 and 29 report attending church in the past week” (Lindsay, 2003).
Did you know parents are ranked the highest among young adults in regard to religious influence? Parents have the greatest influence upon their children when it comes to church involvement---that’s right parents, they do hear you, see you, and follow you---even if they pretend not to notice what’s going on!
Did you know young adults that were raised by seemingly non-caring, over protective parents rank the highest in church dropout? Yeah, I know you’re thinking of all the kids you knew growing up that had THAT MOM . . . and they don’t go to church anymore do they? I know---I thought of those families too.
Did you know you’re mom was right when she told you, “You are what you hang out with!”? Young adults that lack good, quality, faith-minded, church-going friends are more likely to skip out on church.
Did you know how important mentorship and discipleship really are? Today’s young adults that had meaningful relationships with 2 or more adults that intentionally cared about them, poured into them, and loved them during teenage years are more likely to attend church as young adults.
Did you know youth groups that incorporate true community, a family feel, spiritual depth, and focus on quality spiritual formation reap the most retention benefits? And, young adults that attended youth groups that fostered the things listed above are more likely to remain faithful to the church.
Did you know young adult’s needs are not all that drastically different from teenagers needs? Both groups are looking for meaningful relationships, ways to live out their faith, genuine worship, and a walk that matches the talk. Young adults and teens are looking for the real deal! Too bad tons of churches don’t offer the real deal!
The “did you knows” could go on forever . . . but think about it. If you go to church do you intentionally set an example that shows the younger generations around you that Christ is in you, he is real, he meets needs, and he is worth living for? Do you mentor others? Do you live the way Christ has called us to live? Do you seek ministry opportunities? Do you? Does your church? How many young adults are still active in your church’s ministry? Just think about it.
--Megan
Saturday, January 15, 2011
One Semester in One Week
Yeah, you read that correctly---one semester in one week. The first week of January I, along with a host of others, took the introductory teaching class for Ph.D. credit: Theories of Teaching and Learning. The course met from 8am to 5pm each day with a 45min--1 ½ hour break for lunch and research. The purpose of the course was to prepare students that plan to teach Christian Education classes in the future, or better equip those that currently teach, by over viewing many of the foundational aspects of Christian Education. During the course we talked about various definitions, practices, and themes within the Christian Education field. It was a long day and often a bit irritating as I listened to things I had already heard at least twice from previous undergraduate and master’s courses; however, I enjoyed the discussions and hearing the diverse voices that filled the classroom. One thing that is unique to the one-week courses is the mixture of residential students and current faculty track (CFT) students that come in from all over the world to take the course. Let me briefly introduce you to my classmates:
The CFT Students:
Mark--a young man who teaches in Uganda for a CCCU exchange program.
Malachy--a middle-aged woman that teaches at New York Theological Seminary (which I was excited when she introduced herself because NYTS is VERY liberal---too bad she isn’t).
Nancy--an elderly Chinese woman that teaches and helps her husband run a Chinese Theological Seminary in Australia
My Residential Friends:
Jennifer from SoCal (a former missionary in India).
Beatrice--who is originally from Korea, then lived in Brazil, and now lives in SoCal working as a professor and Christian counselor.
Mariette who is originally from Iran and a pastors wife.
Laura from SoCal who works at Biola in the registrars office (bless her heart).
Joseph a pastor and teacher from Korea.
And of course the professor--Dr. Kim who is Korean-American. He grew up in Chicago and has a wealth of interesting stories to tell.
As you can see, my class was filled with diverse voices! I loved it! The best part of the week was the last day. After a week full of lectures, group discussions, researching for a literature review proposal (which I am currently working on to turn in before the end of January), reading, studying, and preparing for a final oral “test” we all went out to lunch as a class. Jennifer offered to take us to her favorite local Indian restaurant. It was so fun to chat and experience a culture that belonged to none of us (except maybe Jennifer since she was a missionary in India for three years). And, we convinced Dr. Kim to do lunch will all his inter-term classes (present and future) the last day!
Now that the whirlwind week is over I am finishing up research and reading on Youth Group Graduate and Young Adult Retention in the Church and writing up a literature review based on my findings (I know sounds thrilling huh?). I should have it done by the middle of next week. It’s been interesting to do some extensive research and add to my knowledge of the youth and young adult ministry fields! I hope what I find will be of use someday and help with my upcoming dissertation!
The course aside I have also been working on P90X with Chris, enjoying the unseasonably (so they say) warm weather, and preparing for the coming semester. I have been asked to join the PhD Task Force (a group that plans special events and helps better the program) and I am in the process of finding an internship. Hopefully, I’ll be teaching in an undergraduate class this Spring or Fall and interacting with some students! I’ll keep you posted on what lies ahead!
--Megan
The CFT Students:
Mark--a young man who teaches in Uganda for a CCCU exchange program.
Malachy--a middle-aged woman that teaches at New York Theological Seminary (which I was excited when she introduced herself because NYTS is VERY liberal---too bad she isn’t).
Nancy--an elderly Chinese woman that teaches and helps her husband run a Chinese Theological Seminary in Australia
My Residential Friends:
Jennifer from SoCal (a former missionary in India).
Beatrice--who is originally from Korea, then lived in Brazil, and now lives in SoCal working as a professor and Christian counselor.
Mariette who is originally from Iran and a pastors wife.
Laura from SoCal who works at Biola in the registrars office (bless her heart).
Joseph a pastor and teacher from Korea.
And of course the professor--Dr. Kim who is Korean-American. He grew up in Chicago and has a wealth of interesting stories to tell.
As you can see, my class was filled with diverse voices! I loved it! The best part of the week was the last day. After a week full of lectures, group discussions, researching for a literature review proposal (which I am currently working on to turn in before the end of January), reading, studying, and preparing for a final oral “test” we all went out to lunch as a class. Jennifer offered to take us to her favorite local Indian restaurant. It was so fun to chat and experience a culture that belonged to none of us (except maybe Jennifer since she was a missionary in India for three years). And, we convinced Dr. Kim to do lunch will all his inter-term classes (present and future) the last day!
Now that the whirlwind week is over I am finishing up research and reading on Youth Group Graduate and Young Adult Retention in the Church and writing up a literature review based on my findings (I know sounds thrilling huh?). I should have it done by the middle of next week. It’s been interesting to do some extensive research and add to my knowledge of the youth and young adult ministry fields! I hope what I find will be of use someday and help with my upcoming dissertation!
The course aside I have also been working on P90X with Chris, enjoying the unseasonably (so they say) warm weather, and preparing for the coming semester. I have been asked to join the PhD Task Force (a group that plans special events and helps better the program) and I am in the process of finding an internship. Hopefully, I’ll be teaching in an undergraduate class this Spring or Fall and interacting with some students! I’ll keep you posted on what lies ahead!
--Megan
Saturday, January 1, 2011
Reflections on 2010 (from Megan)
2010 . . . It was filled with joy, sorrow, excitement, stress, uncertainty, and, as usual, God shaking up my plans! As I flipped back over our calendar, like I do at the end of every year, transferring birthdays, anniversaries, and special dates to remember to our new calendar (I got for $.99 at the BIG 99, I might add) I noticed all the red ink spilled across my calendar pages from January to August! For those that don’t know me well, when my life is busy (ok, all the time) I color code my calendar. Typically, I have a color for church (red), a color for my school events (green), a color for the youth school events (yellow for Chesnee, purple for Gaffney), a color for birthdays and anniversaries (black), and a color for vacations or special family events (teal). As I reflected back on the months gone by I realized just how often I was at church, church events, church related functions, and school functions. I never realized just how severely the church ran my life. There were some months that lacked a single day without red, yellow, green, or purple ink!
Now, don’t get me wrong, I do not look back on the months gone by with regret or sorrow. I deeply treasure the moments spent at church events whether it was simply office time for study and preparation, chatting with George, Joyce, Mack, or other visitors, playing games with the youth/children, attending worship, leading bible study, decorating for an event, gorging myself at one of the church family dinners, attending a youth sporting event, texting students, or facebook chatting into the late house of the night because someone had a question, crisis, or just wanted to chat. However, I am also grateful for a new season in my life . . . A life of rest. Rest from the chaos of planning. Rest from the drama, responsibility, and crowd management. Rest from study focused on youth events, bible studies, and issues. Rest from the church calling the shots.
During my fall semester the required introductory course was comprised of five students total: Yvana, Agam, Beatrice, Jennifer, and me. During the semester, led by our professor, we took time to pray over one student each week. I’ll admit, this was a highly uncomfortable situation for me. I don’t like people in my personal space. I don’t like discussing personal information and prayer requests. And I am overall a rather introverted person. So the idea of five other people entering my personal space----possibly touching me----and praying for ME was, well, overwhelming. However, during the course of the prayer time Beatrice, very prophetically, prayed that God would help me enjoy this season he has brought me to, that I would treasure being alone in the comfort of his presence. Being with just Chris. Being away from family and friends. Understanding that it is a part of his plan. I think she was so right. God has brought me to this time and place. God had a plan to send me ~2,600 miles away from what I had grown to know. He shoved me outside of my routine. He sent me here. And while it has had its trying, challenging, frustrating, stressing, and lonely moments he sent Chris and Mo along with me!
So, in thinking about 2010, there are many memorable moments I could mention. I could talk about all the youth events: Winter Jam, Valentine Dinner, Lock-ins, Flower Sales, Ball Games, Camp, Mission Nights, and the Farewell Service; I could mention family events; I could reflect on my teaching experiences; I could talk about my “coaching” experience; I could think about how Chris and I house hunted, chose a house, and received an acceptance letter from Talbot--literally--the day before we wrote up an offer; I could talk about my sister’s college graduation; I could talk about all the weddings I had the privilege of attending and/or officiating; I could talk about a lot of things! But the thing that stands out the most is the decision to follow God, pack up my things, and move across the country in pursuit of God’s call with no prior plans or clear course of action---something I have never done so haphazardly.
In the end, God has proven to me that he is in control. He does have a plan. He did call me to come here. And even though I have had moments of wonder, frustration, irritation, loneliness, confusion, felt both encouraged and discouraged, and seen the “are you crazy” look more times than I can count, it has been worth it. God has provided every step of the way. I assume, as I leave 2010 behind and step into 2011 God will continue to provide, guide, and shock me. This year, let’s hope he has plans for me to find a ministry/teaching position and get back to doing what I love; but, I’m grateful for the rest, vacation, and time for reflection. Here’s to a new year, new adventures, new surprises, new knowledge, and new challenges. And here’s to the moments I have been blessed to experience. I will always remember the days when church ruled my schedule and I loved it! I will always remember the students that won my heart. And I will always have a place in my life for a group of teenagers (that will unfortunately grow up) and their precious families. In summation, 2010 was a year of change and surprises. In reflecting upon it, as we often do, I can see God’s careful hand planning each step and guiding me to the place where I currently stand. Perhaps, this year I will be more attentive and see the steps as he prepares them?
--Megan
Now, don’t get me wrong, I do not look back on the months gone by with regret or sorrow. I deeply treasure the moments spent at church events whether it was simply office time for study and preparation, chatting with George, Joyce, Mack, or other visitors, playing games with the youth/children, attending worship, leading bible study, decorating for an event, gorging myself at one of the church family dinners, attending a youth sporting event, texting students, or facebook chatting into the late house of the night because someone had a question, crisis, or just wanted to chat. However, I am also grateful for a new season in my life . . . A life of rest. Rest from the chaos of planning. Rest from the drama, responsibility, and crowd management. Rest from study focused on youth events, bible studies, and issues. Rest from the church calling the shots.
During my fall semester the required introductory course was comprised of five students total: Yvana, Agam, Beatrice, Jennifer, and me. During the semester, led by our professor, we took time to pray over one student each week. I’ll admit, this was a highly uncomfortable situation for me. I don’t like people in my personal space. I don’t like discussing personal information and prayer requests. And I am overall a rather introverted person. So the idea of five other people entering my personal space----possibly touching me----and praying for ME was, well, overwhelming. However, during the course of the prayer time Beatrice, very prophetically, prayed that God would help me enjoy this season he has brought me to, that I would treasure being alone in the comfort of his presence. Being with just Chris. Being away from family and friends. Understanding that it is a part of his plan. I think she was so right. God has brought me to this time and place. God had a plan to send me ~2,600 miles away from what I had grown to know. He shoved me outside of my routine. He sent me here. And while it has had its trying, challenging, frustrating, stressing, and lonely moments he sent Chris and Mo along with me!
So, in thinking about 2010, there are many memorable moments I could mention. I could talk about all the youth events: Winter Jam, Valentine Dinner, Lock-ins, Flower Sales, Ball Games, Camp, Mission Nights, and the Farewell Service; I could mention family events; I could reflect on my teaching experiences; I could talk about my “coaching” experience; I could think about how Chris and I house hunted, chose a house, and received an acceptance letter from Talbot--literally--the day before we wrote up an offer; I could talk about my sister’s college graduation; I could talk about all the weddings I had the privilege of attending and/or officiating; I could talk about a lot of things! But the thing that stands out the most is the decision to follow God, pack up my things, and move across the country in pursuit of God’s call with no prior plans or clear course of action---something I have never done so haphazardly.
In the end, God has proven to me that he is in control. He does have a plan. He did call me to come here. And even though I have had moments of wonder, frustration, irritation, loneliness, confusion, felt both encouraged and discouraged, and seen the “are you crazy” look more times than I can count, it has been worth it. God has provided every step of the way. I assume, as I leave 2010 behind and step into 2011 God will continue to provide, guide, and shock me. This year, let’s hope he has plans for me to find a ministry/teaching position and get back to doing what I love; but, I’m grateful for the rest, vacation, and time for reflection. Here’s to a new year, new adventures, new surprises, new knowledge, and new challenges. And here’s to the moments I have been blessed to experience. I will always remember the days when church ruled my schedule and I loved it! I will always remember the students that won my heart. And I will always have a place in my life for a group of teenagers (that will unfortunately grow up) and their precious families. In summation, 2010 was a year of change and surprises. In reflecting upon it, as we often do, I can see God’s careful hand planning each step and guiding me to the place where I currently stand. Perhaps, this year I will be more attentive and see the steps as he prepares them?
--Megan
Friday, December 31, 2010
One Down, Three to Go . . . Three Down, Twelve to Go . . .
(One Semester Down, Three Semesters to Go... Three Classes Down, Twelve Classes to Go)
After reading more books than I can count, writing countless papers, and completing my first pilot study/research project I have officially concluded my first semester of doctoral studies. All in all, as far as workload is concerned, it wasn’t nearly as difficult as I expected it to be.
I really liked one of my classes and learned a lot of valuable information overall! I am also glad to be finished with the introductory course and look forward to taking more classes focused on topics I am interested in. And, as the winter break comes to a close, I am looking forward to my interterm course that starts January 3 and the following spring semester.
As Chris has already mentioned we have also had time to go on some short adventures. We traveled to Galt to visit my mom’s step-sister’s brother’s family (that’s the family connection he couldn’t explain earlier) for Thanksgiving. We also went to San Francisco and many of the beaches along the coastline.
Over the break I have been reading diligently for my coming January course and enjoying time with Chris and Mo. We spent a day at Knotts Berry Farm, watched all four Shrek movies, went shopping with our Christmas gift cards, played the Wii for hours, enjoyed receiving countless Christmas cards from friends and family, and enjoyed a Christmas Eve service at church (they even rented a snow blower so there would be snow).
For those that have been asking about our church involvement we visited the youth service a few weeks ago and offered to help out. I couldn’t help feeling out of place and as though we were not really needed. Furthermore, those of you that know me well know how organized and plan-oriented I am . . . It did not seem fully organized, which drove me crazy! Furthermore, the more I thought about the youth service the more I had a huge issue with it from a theological standpoint. I just cannot support the idea of separating the youth from the greater body of the church . . . I am currently wrestling with whether or not I can help out with something I feel is not right. I realize ministry to large groups is drastically different than ministry with small groups but I just don’t think separate worship services is a part of that difference. I’m still praying about it and we’ll see where God leads us.
As for ministries and small groups for our age group we have been talking with some of the church staff. We noticed in the bulletin last week that a new ministry called “Connect” is starting up after the first of the year. We are looking forward to trying it out and connecting with some people our age. Overall, however, connecting in general has been much more difficult than we anticipated. We really miss our friends back east, but are more and more grateful for them everyday! We hope you’ll treasure the friends you have and take every opportunity possible to spend quality time with them!
--Megan
After reading more books than I can count, writing countless papers, and completing my first pilot study/research project I have officially concluded my first semester of doctoral studies. All in all, as far as workload is concerned, it wasn’t nearly as difficult as I expected it to be.
I really liked one of my classes and learned a lot of valuable information overall! I am also glad to be finished with the introductory course and look forward to taking more classes focused on topics I am interested in. And, as the winter break comes to a close, I am looking forward to my interterm course that starts January 3 and the following spring semester.
As Chris has already mentioned we have also had time to go on some short adventures. We traveled to Galt to visit my mom’s step-sister’s brother’s family (that’s the family connection he couldn’t explain earlier) for Thanksgiving. We also went to San Francisco and many of the beaches along the coastline.
Over the break I have been reading diligently for my coming January course and enjoying time with Chris and Mo. We spent a day at Knotts Berry Farm, watched all four Shrek movies, went shopping with our Christmas gift cards, played the Wii for hours, enjoyed receiving countless Christmas cards from friends and family, and enjoyed a Christmas Eve service at church (they even rented a snow blower so there would be snow).
For those that have been asking about our church involvement we visited the youth service a few weeks ago and offered to help out. I couldn’t help feeling out of place and as though we were not really needed. Furthermore, those of you that know me well know how organized and plan-oriented I am . . . It did not seem fully organized, which drove me crazy! Furthermore, the more I thought about the youth service the more I had a huge issue with it from a theological standpoint. I just cannot support the idea of separating the youth from the greater body of the church . . . I am currently wrestling with whether or not I can help out with something I feel is not right. I realize ministry to large groups is drastically different than ministry with small groups but I just don’t think separate worship services is a part of that difference. I’m still praying about it and we’ll see where God leads us.
As for ministries and small groups for our age group we have been talking with some of the church staff. We noticed in the bulletin last week that a new ministry called “Connect” is starting up after the first of the year. We are looking forward to trying it out and connecting with some people our age. Overall, however, connecting in general has been much more difficult than we anticipated. We really miss our friends back east, but are more and more grateful for them everyday! We hope you’ll treasure the friends you have and take every opportunity possible to spend quality time with them!
--Megan
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
It's Been A While
It’s been a while since our last post. Lots of things have been going on! I have been pretty consumed with school work--reading, projects, presentations, papers, etc. However, good news on that front--I had my first solo presentation and it went GREAT! Rave reviews! It was a workshop presentation for my Faculty Development class entitled: “Developing Creative Course Materials.”
I have also been to the beach several times since my last post. It was 90+ a few days last week and I felt the need to take advantage of it! I took a break from paper writing, packed up my books, and ventured out to soak up some sun. I chose to drive about 30mins to Huntington Beach. I have not previously been to Huntington; it is a more touristy beach but there were tons of families out that afternoon enjoying the unseasonably warm weather. I enjoyed reading and people watching. I also took a trip with Jennifer on Saturday (another student in my program) to Newport Beach for an afternoon of reading on the beach. We enjoyed lunch on the pier at Ruby’s Diner and then sat on the beach and read for an hour or so (it was windy and cold though). When you come visit I’ll take you there!
Finally, in the midst of the busyness we have been trying to find our place at WACC (the church we have decided on). We have been to the college/career worship---and felt 100% out of place. And we looked for a SS class but had no success finding a class for people our age. We have a meeting scheduled with the youth pastor for this Thursday to see about some youth ministry opportunities and find out about small groups within our age group. We are both looking forward to what that meeting brings.
Nonetheless, all the searching makes me miss my NP kids and church family. But God is good! Just when I miss you all the most a random card, email, or text message comes my way. I am reminded that our friendship is still alive! Many of you may not know how special those cards and messages are but God sure does! I am most encouraged and feel most loved/appreciated through written word----so thanks for all the notes, cards, and messages! Know you are all in my thoughts and prayers daily and will forever hold as special place in my heart!
--Megan
I have also been to the beach several times since my last post. It was 90+ a few days last week and I felt the need to take advantage of it! I took a break from paper writing, packed up my books, and ventured out to soak up some sun. I chose to drive about 30mins to Huntington Beach. I have not previously been to Huntington; it is a more touristy beach but there were tons of families out that afternoon enjoying the unseasonably warm weather. I enjoyed reading and people watching. I also took a trip with Jennifer on Saturday (another student in my program) to Newport Beach for an afternoon of reading on the beach. We enjoyed lunch on the pier at Ruby’s Diner and then sat on the beach and read for an hour or so (it was windy and cold though). When you come visit I’ll take you there!
Finally, in the midst of the busyness we have been trying to find our place at WACC (the church we have decided on). We have been to the college/career worship---and felt 100% out of place. And we looked for a SS class but had no success finding a class for people our age. We have a meeting scheduled with the youth pastor for this Thursday to see about some youth ministry opportunities and find out about small groups within our age group. We are both looking forward to what that meeting brings.
Nonetheless, all the searching makes me miss my NP kids and church family. But God is good! Just when I miss you all the most a random card, email, or text message comes my way. I am reminded that our friendship is still alive! Many of you may not know how special those cards and messages are but God sure does! I am most encouraged and feel most loved/appreciated through written word----so thanks for all the notes, cards, and messages! Know you are all in my thoughts and prayers daily and will forever hold as special place in my heart!
--Megan
Monday, October 4, 2010
The Hunt is Still On...Sort Of
Atmosphere: overall appearance, smell, temperature, friendliness of the people.
Sounds: music, volume, chatter, noises of the people.
Surroundings: lighting, style, comfort, people.
Navigability: parking situation, church building, sanctuary, helpfulness of the people.
Worship: style, format, sounds, visuals, music, sermon, staff . . .
On and on and on I could go . . . . You see how many times people is up there?
All of these things, and many more, factor into your first impression of a church. Many leaders, staff members, and pastor’s should take a moment to reflect on all of these items. Do we plan our services with visitors in mind? Do we structure our services, our space, our plans (our Sunday’s in general) with new eyes, ears, and hearts in our periphery or on our radar at all? All these questions, and so many more, have been running rampant through my mind as we visit and worship at new places. Sadly, I must confess, many of these things never really crossed my mind until recently. And, I imagine, they don’t cross the minds of many ministers around the globe----maybe, just maybe, that’s one of the many things that’s wrong with our churches today?
In light of my ponderings I have also become more critical of the “church experience.” I have not “chosen” a church in years (because I believe God called me to churches to serve in previous years and the churches, essentially, chose me) and now that I have the choice I expect much more than I previously expected out of the “church experience.” I shamefully enter with an eye of critical skepticism and find it increasingly difficult to worship when I’m constantly evaluating: the music, the surroundings, the programs, the service opportunities, the sermon, the staff, the people around me, the whole package. And quite frankly, as many of you reading this know well, it is nearly impossible to fairly and affectively judge a church after just one visit--but it is how most people do it! Churches get one chance. One Chance!
And so, our critical search began August 8. Since that first church we have been to seven others (skipping one Sunday--August 22--to receive our belongings from the movers)! The following eight churches are the one’s we have visited either by stumbling across them online or receiving recommendations from friends, professors, or my classmates:
Some we liked, some we strongly disliked, some we couldn’t find a thing wrong with but knew it wasn’t where we needed to be. Some were filled with incredibly friendly people! Others, not a single individual spoke to us. And many came with the questions and responses that appall me, leaving a sour taste in my mouth and hatred brewing in my heart! Those appalling conversations went something like this:
“Welcome to ____________! My name is ___________.” --Church person
“Thanks, I’m Megan/Chris.” --Us
“Oh, where are you from?” --Church person (bc we apparently have strong accents)
“South Carolina.” --Us
“Oh, wow! What brings you to CA?” --Church person
“I’m going to Talbot.” --Megan
“Oh, you’re going to Talbot?” --Church person (asking Chris)
“No, she’s going to Talbot.” --Chris (pointing to me)
“OH. . .” (look of shock, bewilderment, awe, loss for words). “Are you getting an MA?”
“No, I’m, ahhh, a PhD in Christian Education.” --Me (I hate using that PhD word---it makes people uncomfortable).
“Oh. Well. Great to have you this morning.” --Church person (moves on embarrassed).
I hate these conversations because they are so incredibly awkward. I also hate them because I have to come out of the gate being the “PhD student” (which creates an awkward, unnecessary barrier). Furthermore, I hate such interludes because every time the welcoming, I’m sure well meaning, church individual assumes I am not the student and when he/she realizes I am assumes I’m just getting an MA. Finally, I hate these conversations because Chris loves them and quickly corrects the poor individual with no shame and a healthy dose of pride. In all of this, where, pray-tell, are the moderate church-going Californian’s I spent my whole life hearing about? I’ve yet to meet one. So much for the west coast being the more liberal coast (yet another one of my presuppositions crushed).
After venturing off to all eight of the churches listed above, good experiences, bad experiences, awkward conversations, and all that comes with each, I have chosen a favorite. And although it does not meet some of the expectations I believe it should meet I have come to realize you have to set some things aside for the sake of fellowship, community, and good, quality, unadulterated, sound, orthodox, genuine time of communal worship. Some things are personal and really don’t matter in the larger communal scene. Most people don’t know what they expect or even believe and probably don’t really care what you expect or believe either! So, unless someone asks, I’ll keep my petty concerns to myself and deal. As long as a foundational, core beliefs are not shaken and tampered with, I’ll make it (I have previously). After all, we were made for worship. We were made for fellowship. We were not made to walk this journey alone. And church hopping is walking it alone. It’s tiring, draining, and totally unfulfilling. So, if you are not a part of a healthy, growing, teaching, worship filled church body . . . Please, for your own sake, find one! And if you are a part of a healthy church body . . . Post a comment and tell us your story. What do you love about your church? We’d love to hear some stories!
--Megan
Sounds: music, volume, chatter, noises of the people.
Surroundings: lighting, style, comfort, people.
Navigability: parking situation, church building, sanctuary, helpfulness of the people.
Worship: style, format, sounds, visuals, music, sermon, staff . . .
On and on and on I could go . . . . You see how many times people is up there?
All of these things, and many more, factor into your first impression of a church. Many leaders, staff members, and pastor’s should take a moment to reflect on all of these items. Do we plan our services with visitors in mind? Do we structure our services, our space, our plans (our Sunday’s in general) with new eyes, ears, and hearts in our periphery or on our radar at all? All these questions, and so many more, have been running rampant through my mind as we visit and worship at new places. Sadly, I must confess, many of these things never really crossed my mind until recently. And, I imagine, they don’t cross the minds of many ministers around the globe----maybe, just maybe, that’s one of the many things that’s wrong with our churches today?
In light of my ponderings I have also become more critical of the “church experience.” I have not “chosen” a church in years (because I believe God called me to churches to serve in previous years and the churches, essentially, chose me) and now that I have the choice I expect much more than I previously expected out of the “church experience.” I shamefully enter with an eye of critical skepticism and find it increasingly difficult to worship when I’m constantly evaluating: the music, the surroundings, the programs, the service opportunities, the sermon, the staff, the people around me, the whole package. And quite frankly, as many of you reading this know well, it is nearly impossible to fairly and affectively judge a church after just one visit--but it is how most people do it! Churches get one chance. One Chance!
And so, our critical search began August 8. Since that first church we have been to seven others (skipping one Sunday--August 22--to receive our belongings from the movers)! The following eight churches are the one’s we have visited either by stumbling across them online or receiving recommendations from friends, professors, or my classmates:
Redeemer Baptist Church
Greenhills Baptist Church
Whittier Hills Baptist Church
Mosaic of Whittier
Eastside Baptist Church
Calvary Baptist Church
Grace Evangelical Free Church
Whittier Area Community Church
Some we liked, some we strongly disliked, some we couldn’t find a thing wrong with but knew it wasn’t where we needed to be. Some were filled with incredibly friendly people! Others, not a single individual spoke to us. And many came with the questions and responses that appall me, leaving a sour taste in my mouth and hatred brewing in my heart! Those appalling conversations went something like this:
“Welcome to ____________! My name is ___________.” --Church person
“Thanks, I’m Megan/Chris.” --Us
“Oh, where are you from?” --Church person (bc we apparently have strong accents)
“South Carolina.” --Us
“Oh, wow! What brings you to CA?” --Church person
“I’m going to Talbot.” --Megan
“Oh, you’re going to Talbot?” --Church person (asking Chris)
“No, she’s going to Talbot.” --Chris (pointing to me)
“OH. . .” (look of shock, bewilderment, awe, loss for words). “Are you getting an MA?”
“No, I’m, ahhh, a PhD in Christian Education.” --Me (I hate using that PhD word---it makes people uncomfortable).
“Oh. Well. Great to have you this morning.” --Church person (moves on embarrassed).
I hate these conversations because they are so incredibly awkward. I also hate them because I have to come out of the gate being the “PhD student” (which creates an awkward, unnecessary barrier). Furthermore, I hate such interludes because every time the welcoming, I’m sure well meaning, church individual assumes I am not the student and when he/she realizes I am assumes I’m just getting an MA. Finally, I hate these conversations because Chris loves them and quickly corrects the poor individual with no shame and a healthy dose of pride. In all of this, where, pray-tell, are the moderate church-going Californian’s I spent my whole life hearing about? I’ve yet to meet one. So much for the west coast being the more liberal coast (yet another one of my presuppositions crushed).
After venturing off to all eight of the churches listed above, good experiences, bad experiences, awkward conversations, and all that comes with each, I have chosen a favorite. And although it does not meet some of the expectations I believe it should meet I have come to realize you have to set some things aside for the sake of fellowship, community, and good, quality, unadulterated, sound, orthodox, genuine time of communal worship. Some things are personal and really don’t matter in the larger communal scene. Most people don’t know what they expect or even believe and probably don’t really care what you expect or believe either! So, unless someone asks, I’ll keep my petty concerns to myself and deal. As long as a foundational, core beliefs are not shaken and tampered with, I’ll make it (I have previously). After all, we were made for worship. We were made for fellowship. We were not made to walk this journey alone. And church hopping is walking it alone. It’s tiring, draining, and totally unfulfilling. So, if you are not a part of a healthy, growing, teaching, worship filled church body . . . Please, for your own sake, find one! And if you are a part of a healthy church body . . . Post a comment and tell us your story. What do you love about your church? We’d love to hear some stories!
--Megan
Friday, September 17, 2010
Things I Like...
To follow up Chris’ list of things he misses here is a list of things I am growing to like about So Cal.
1. The Beach. Ok, so this may not really count because I love any beach I go to . . . But it’s a start (see pics below from my first trip with Jennifer last week)!
2. The Convenience. For the first time in my life I live within close proximity to everything I need. There is a shopping center, literally, across the street from our apartment. The shopping center includes: Target, Vons (a grocery store---equivalent to Ukrops or Publics---it’s a nice one), Sears, Kohls, JCPenny, Panera, PetsMart, World Market, Dippin’ Dots, Edible Arrangements, and other assorted stores and eating establishments.
3. The Sale Papers. To go along with the convenience aspect of it all I really like the fact that the sale papers here have coupons in them! Each Tuesday the mail man brings a stack of sale papers. In that stack are precious coupons and sales for all of the local grocery stores . . . I comb through them, clip coupons, and store hop. It creates a great deal of savings----which I love!
4. The Weather. I really like the southern California weather, so far anyway. You just can’t beat sunny and 70’s everyday! I’m sure this will begin to get on my nerves come December and I feel the need to wear a warm, fussy sweater and pea coat . . . But we’ll see.
5. The Need for Speed. While I have not fully experienced the hectic driving of So Cal (because I have yet to drive more than 5 miles the interstates), I do appreciate the “go go go” attitude!
6. The Tourism Opportunities. I really like all the options we have to see and do new things. A few things I’m looking forward to include:
Disney Land San Diego Zoo Hollywood
Downtown LA Riding Route 1 Visiting ALL the local beaches.
7. The Time to Study. In spite of the fact that I don’t necessarily love all of my classes at present I do appreciate the opportunity to read, study, and reflect. I also appreciate the sacrifices Chris is making so that can happen.
8. The Foliage. I love all the palm trees! I like how they are everywhere here and constantly remind me how close I am to the beach!
9. The Diversity. I really appreciate the diversity that is present in Southern California. I appreciate the diversity within our apartment complex, community, and within my classes. It is so nice to see different cultures first hand on a daily basis.
10. But Most of all I Appreciate Sharing it all with Chris (and Mo). It would not be nearly as easy to find ten things I liked about Southern California if I didn’t have my husband and friend along with me! I cannot imagine how difficult things are for the men and women in my program that came here all alone. Nor can I imagine the loneliness they must feel and how much harder the transition has been for them! But, I am so thankful for my husband and doggie! Mo is the best study buddy ever! And he always greets us with puppy kisses and excitement!
--Megan
1. The Beach. Ok, so this may not really count because I love any beach I go to . . . But it’s a start (see pics below from my first trip with Jennifer last week)!
2. The Convenience. For the first time in my life I live within close proximity to everything I need. There is a shopping center, literally, across the street from our apartment. The shopping center includes: Target, Vons (a grocery store---equivalent to Ukrops or Publics---it’s a nice one), Sears, Kohls, JCPenny, Panera, PetsMart, World Market, Dippin’ Dots, Edible Arrangements, and other assorted stores and eating establishments.
3. The Sale Papers. To go along with the convenience aspect of it all I really like the fact that the sale papers here have coupons in them! Each Tuesday the mail man brings a stack of sale papers. In that stack are precious coupons and sales for all of the local grocery stores . . . I comb through them, clip coupons, and store hop. It creates a great deal of savings----which I love!
4. The Weather. I really like the southern California weather, so far anyway. You just can’t beat sunny and 70’s everyday! I’m sure this will begin to get on my nerves come December and I feel the need to wear a warm, fussy sweater and pea coat . . . But we’ll see.
5. The Need for Speed. While I have not fully experienced the hectic driving of So Cal (because I have yet to drive more than 5 miles the interstates), I do appreciate the “go go go” attitude!
6. The Tourism Opportunities. I really like all the options we have to see and do new things. A few things I’m looking forward to include:
Disney Land San Diego Zoo Hollywood
Downtown LA Riding Route 1 Visiting ALL the local beaches.
7. The Time to Study. In spite of the fact that I don’t necessarily love all of my classes at present I do appreciate the opportunity to read, study, and reflect. I also appreciate the sacrifices Chris is making so that can happen.
8. The Foliage. I love all the palm trees! I like how they are everywhere here and constantly remind me how close I am to the beach!
9. The Diversity. I really appreciate the diversity that is present in Southern California. I appreciate the diversity within our apartment complex, community, and within my classes. It is so nice to see different cultures first hand on a daily basis.
10. But Most of all I Appreciate Sharing it all with Chris (and Mo). It would not be nearly as easy to find ten things I liked about Southern California if I didn’t have my husband and friend along with me! I cannot imagine how difficult things are for the men and women in my program that came here all alone. Nor can I imagine the loneliness they must feel and how much harder the transition has been for them! But, I am so thankful for my husband and doggie! Mo is the best study buddy ever! And he always greets us with puppy kisses and excitement!
--Megan
Thursday, September 9, 2010
A Few Good Men
I have officially completed a full week (almost 2 at this point) of classes! And with ~30 required chapters of reading, 5 written assignments, ~10 chapters of “optional reading,” and ~14 pages of reading notes down I’m ready to do it all over again this week!
Aside from all the reading and work, I really do like most of my classes and I’m adjusting, fairly well, to the work load. However, as I read, take notes, study, and complete assignments my mind constantly goes to my international student colleges. I cannot imagine how difficult it must be for them! Some of the reading is well beyond my knowledge base . . . and let’s not even discuss vocabulary! The internationals among me here at Talbot, and across the globe, have my utmost respect! I know I couldn’t do what they are doing and am beyond grateful that I have accredited institutions of higher learning that I can attend in my native tongue.
Classes and educational ponderings aside I am finding it more difficult than I anticipated to adjust on a relational level to those around me. Those of you that know me well know that I am, at my core, an introverted person. I take longer than the average person to open up and I certainly do not like putting myself in uncomfortable social situations. With such introversion in mind, many of the individuals in my program are, well, significantly older than me; which is not all together an issue it just makes finding quality friends (within the same life-stage) more challenging. At the same time, it seems awkward to participate in the MDiv/MA program’s social activities because, well, I’m not in those programs! It really puts me in an awkward place. I know it seems trivial but things just shouldn’t be this problematic. However, as I ponder such things I am forced to reflect back upon my transition from undergraduate studies to MDiv studies and from MDiv studies to the present . . .
My first semester of MDiv work I was caught in the middle of two worlds . . . Undergrad life and graduate life. I was in the MDiv classes but still “supposed to be” in the undergraduate world (if you don’t know, I finished my undergrad work in December of my senior year and began my master’s work in January). It took me nearly a year to fully adjust to the change in educational status. My first semester of MDiv work I avoided all things MDiv related, because it was awkward. I didn’t know the people. I didn’t fit in with them. I felt so much younger! And I am not good at making the extra effort! Thankfully, a “few good men” (Stuart and Mike) stepped up to be my friends and drug me, sometimes kicking and screaming, to functions that forced me to meet new people and step outside of my comfort zone. Ultimately, my sophomore year I decided to go on the Holy Land trip and that pushed me over the edge. I got to know some new people I didn’t know previously and developed some great friendships that got me through my final year of Div school . . . My regret is that it took me so long to develop those friendships!
As I graduated I, again, felt awkward in the next phase of my life. Adjusting to life without school and friends all around me, on a regular basis, was hard. And now, I find myself at the next juncture in my journey. I hope a “few good men” (or women) will come my way and help me though the awkwardness of it all . . .but I fear if I don’t grow up, step out, and force myself into situations of discomfort I may find good friends later in my journey than necessary (or not at all).
With all that said, those of you that are my friends---thanks! I know I don’t always keep in touch like I should but know I think of you often and really do treasure the gift that you are! Those that are yet to enter my life----be patient with me, like the “few good men” of my past, I’ll come around.
--Megan
Aside from all the reading and work, I really do like most of my classes and I’m adjusting, fairly well, to the work load. However, as I read, take notes, study, and complete assignments my mind constantly goes to my international student colleges. I cannot imagine how difficult it must be for them! Some of the reading is well beyond my knowledge base . . . and let’s not even discuss vocabulary! The internationals among me here at Talbot, and across the globe, have my utmost respect! I know I couldn’t do what they are doing and am beyond grateful that I have accredited institutions of higher learning that I can attend in my native tongue.
Classes and educational ponderings aside I am finding it more difficult than I anticipated to adjust on a relational level to those around me. Those of you that know me well know that I am, at my core, an introverted person. I take longer than the average person to open up and I certainly do not like putting myself in uncomfortable social situations. With such introversion in mind, many of the individuals in my program are, well, significantly older than me; which is not all together an issue it just makes finding quality friends (within the same life-stage) more challenging. At the same time, it seems awkward to participate in the MDiv/MA program’s social activities because, well, I’m not in those programs! It really puts me in an awkward place. I know it seems trivial but things just shouldn’t be this problematic. However, as I ponder such things I am forced to reflect back upon my transition from undergraduate studies to MDiv studies and from MDiv studies to the present . . .
My first semester of MDiv work I was caught in the middle of two worlds . . . Undergrad life and graduate life. I was in the MDiv classes but still “supposed to be” in the undergraduate world (if you don’t know, I finished my undergrad work in December of my senior year and began my master’s work in January). It took me nearly a year to fully adjust to the change in educational status. My first semester of MDiv work I avoided all things MDiv related, because it was awkward. I didn’t know the people. I didn’t fit in with them. I felt so much younger! And I am not good at making the extra effort! Thankfully, a “few good men” (Stuart and Mike) stepped up to be my friends and drug me, sometimes kicking and screaming, to functions that forced me to meet new people and step outside of my comfort zone. Ultimately, my sophomore year I decided to go on the Holy Land trip and that pushed me over the edge. I got to know some new people I didn’t know previously and developed some great friendships that got me through my final year of Div school . . . My regret is that it took me so long to develop those friendships!
As I graduated I, again, felt awkward in the next phase of my life. Adjusting to life without school and friends all around me, on a regular basis, was hard. And now, I find myself at the next juncture in my journey. I hope a “few good men” (or women) will come my way and help me though the awkwardness of it all . . .but I fear if I don’t grow up, step out, and force myself into situations of discomfort I may find good friends later in my journey than necessary (or not at all).
With all that said, those of you that are my friends---thanks! I know I don’t always keep in touch like I should but know I think of you often and really do treasure the gift that you are! Those that are yet to enter my life----be patient with me, like the “few good men” of my past, I’ll come around.
--Megan
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
Another Perspective
For those of you asking to hear my side of the story . . . Here it is (but I’ll try keep it short because I have a TON of reading I need to work on).
In the time that has elapsed since I last updated you on our adventures our belongings have arrived from SC and I have started the doctoral program at Talbot. As I mentioned in a previous update, August 20 all of our IKEA items finally arrived as well as our fridge. Which was great! Our other belongings finally arrived Sunday August 22 around 12noon, just hours before my doctoral functions started at 6pm!
With that said, the doctoral fun and festivities began August 22 at 6pm with a welcome dinner at the home of Dr. Orbelina Eguizabal (she is originally from Guatemala and can COOK). It was a small get together totaling just nine people. The nine included Dr. Eguizabal, Dr. Lawson, Tanya (the administrative assistant), Jennifer (a fellow student), Agam (a fellow student), Agam’s wife Oge, Agam and Oge’s six month old daughter Chari, Chris, and me. It was nice to finally meet a few more people and be introduced to the program via an informal dinner setting. However, as we ate and socialized I couldn’t help thinking about the disaster that was within the walls of our apartment!
After the dinner I spent several hours unpacking and went to bed leaving many boxes untouched, which many of you know about killed me. The following morning, Monday August 23, was an official welcome to Talbot orientation. The orientation lasted from 8:30am--1pm (Southern California time---which means we started at 8:40am and finished at 12:40pm). It was very informative but very daunting. We were told it is unheard of to complete the program in less than 4 or 5 years----let’s see if I can prove them wrong! I was also shocked, once again, that I even got into the program! There are only four of us in my cohort (incoming class). Let me take a moment to introduce you to them briefly by first name only . . .
Jennifer---she is in her 30’s and has experience teaching, writing curriculum, and working with believers in India. Her passion is to create and take materials back to India to help families and church leaders better equip new believers and produce fruitful, knowledgeable, vibrant Christians.
Agam---he is originally from Nigeria and served as a pastor/leader there before coming here. I am not sure how old Agam is but he does have 3 little girls (6, 4, and 6 months). Agam plans to soak up as much knowledge as possible and take it back to Nigeria to train and prepare leaders to serve the churches working with the city, village, and brush communities.
Beatrice---she is in her 40’s-50’s. Beatrice was born in Seoul, Korea and lived there until age 15. At 15 she moved with her family to Brazil. After marrying her husband she then moved to CA and has been here since. She has two adult sons and teaches at a local university.
Me---then there is me . . . I have no such experiences! I was born on the east coast . . . lived on the east coast my entire life until about three weeks ago. I have no culturally exciting stories to share from my repertoire of experiences. It’s intimidating to say the least! See why I’m still trying to figure out why they accepted me? Surely there were other choices! But I know all of us feel that way . . . I am not alone in these ponderings!
After the orientation I called Chris (during my orientation he was interviewing at Riverside Poly). He was offered the job! YAY! But had to stay a little longer than expected to complete paper work and get the ball rolling. So I had the privilege of staying on campus for . . . 4 hours. Which would have been great if I had a book to read, homework to complete, or knew someone! The day before Jennifer and I had planned to go to the beach right after the orientation but she needed to make it later so Dr. Orbe could join us . . . Which meant I didn’t want to go because I had a TON of unpacking to finish. So, long story short I scoped out the campus. Went to the library. Called anyone I could think of to catch up. And read almost all of Mark’s gospel! Chris finally arrived to pick me up around 5pm and we headed back to our mayhem filled apartment.
By Wednesday everything was unpacked. All that is remaining to complete the place is a small microwave cart and patio table/chairs . . . Once we find all that we will have it all set-up (to my liking at least). We will post some pictures of our place all set up. . . I think you’ll agree it looks way better!
Thursday my classes officially started and syllabus shock was fully and firmly in place. I was heavily warned about Dr. Issler’s 801 Intro. to Philosophical Thought for Christian Education course and rightly so. There is more reading listed on that syllabus than all of my M.Div courses combined (okay, maybe that’s an exaggeration---but it’s close). I’ll keep you posted on how it goes!
Friday we took off on our weekly grocery run . . . 1 list, 4 stores, 4 envelopes of coupons, and lots of money saved!
Saturday and Sunday were complete madness . . . We had our first experience with car shopping and sales men---it was not an all around good experience. We ended up with a used Toyota Corolla. It is silver and has about 25000 miles on it. We settled for it after failed negotiations with the Nissan dealership and Hyundai dealership. Those are stories I’ll tell you in person sometime . . . no need to recount them here. Overall, we got a car and I can now drive myself to and from classes!
Yesterday, I had my first Christian Education class and I LOVED IT! Dr. Shelley Cunningham is the professor for most of the teaching emphasis courses and I’m really excited to learn from her and take as many courses with her as possible. The class I’m taking is 873 Faculty Development in Christian Higher Education. I have no experience in this area but I’m looking forward to learning about it for potential future use! I’ll keep you posted on how that goes as well!
Today, I am reading and preparing for classes and then I have my third, and final, fall course at 3pm (PST). It is a research class . . . So I’m not thrilled about it but it is a necessary evil for Christian Education. I’ll also let you know how that all pans out!
We are settling in more and more but still miss all of you! Please continue to pray for us! We are still looking for a church. We have visited three so far. Nothing wrong with any of them . . . They just don’t feel like home . . .
--Megan
In the time that has elapsed since I last updated you on our adventures our belongings have arrived from SC and I have started the doctoral program at Talbot. As I mentioned in a previous update, August 20 all of our IKEA items finally arrived as well as our fridge. Which was great! Our other belongings finally arrived Sunday August 22 around 12noon, just hours before my doctoral functions started at 6pm!
With that said, the doctoral fun and festivities began August 22 at 6pm with a welcome dinner at the home of Dr. Orbelina Eguizabal (she is originally from Guatemala and can COOK). It was a small get together totaling just nine people. The nine included Dr. Eguizabal, Dr. Lawson, Tanya (the administrative assistant), Jennifer (a fellow student), Agam (a fellow student), Agam’s wife Oge, Agam and Oge’s six month old daughter Chari, Chris, and me. It was nice to finally meet a few more people and be introduced to the program via an informal dinner setting. However, as we ate and socialized I couldn’t help thinking about the disaster that was within the walls of our apartment!
After the dinner I spent several hours unpacking and went to bed leaving many boxes untouched, which many of you know about killed me. The following morning, Monday August 23, was an official welcome to Talbot orientation. The orientation lasted from 8:30am--1pm (Southern California time---which means we started at 8:40am and finished at 12:40pm). It was very informative but very daunting. We were told it is unheard of to complete the program in less than 4 or 5 years----let’s see if I can prove them wrong! I was also shocked, once again, that I even got into the program! There are only four of us in my cohort (incoming class). Let me take a moment to introduce you to them briefly by first name only . . .
Jennifer---she is in her 30’s and has experience teaching, writing curriculum, and working with believers in India. Her passion is to create and take materials back to India to help families and church leaders better equip new believers and produce fruitful, knowledgeable, vibrant Christians.
Agam---he is originally from Nigeria and served as a pastor/leader there before coming here. I am not sure how old Agam is but he does have 3 little girls (6, 4, and 6 months). Agam plans to soak up as much knowledge as possible and take it back to Nigeria to train and prepare leaders to serve the churches working with the city, village, and brush communities.
Beatrice---she is in her 40’s-50’s. Beatrice was born in Seoul, Korea and lived there until age 15. At 15 she moved with her family to Brazil. After marrying her husband she then moved to CA and has been here since. She has two adult sons and teaches at a local university.
Me---then there is me . . . I have no such experiences! I was born on the east coast . . . lived on the east coast my entire life until about three weeks ago. I have no culturally exciting stories to share from my repertoire of experiences. It’s intimidating to say the least! See why I’m still trying to figure out why they accepted me? Surely there were other choices! But I know all of us feel that way . . . I am not alone in these ponderings!
After the orientation I called Chris (during my orientation he was interviewing at Riverside Poly). He was offered the job! YAY! But had to stay a little longer than expected to complete paper work and get the ball rolling. So I had the privilege of staying on campus for . . . 4 hours. Which would have been great if I had a book to read, homework to complete, or knew someone! The day before Jennifer and I had planned to go to the beach right after the orientation but she needed to make it later so Dr. Orbe could join us . . . Which meant I didn’t want to go because I had a TON of unpacking to finish. So, long story short I scoped out the campus. Went to the library. Called anyone I could think of to catch up. And read almost all of Mark’s gospel! Chris finally arrived to pick me up around 5pm and we headed back to our mayhem filled apartment.
By Wednesday everything was unpacked. All that is remaining to complete the place is a small microwave cart and patio table/chairs . . . Once we find all that we will have it all set-up (to my liking at least). We will post some pictures of our place all set up. . . I think you’ll agree it looks way better!
Thursday my classes officially started and syllabus shock was fully and firmly in place. I was heavily warned about Dr. Issler’s 801 Intro. to Philosophical Thought for Christian Education course and rightly so. There is more reading listed on that syllabus than all of my M.Div courses combined (okay, maybe that’s an exaggeration---but it’s close). I’ll keep you posted on how it goes!
Friday we took off on our weekly grocery run . . . 1 list, 4 stores, 4 envelopes of coupons, and lots of money saved!
Saturday and Sunday were complete madness . . . We had our first experience with car shopping and sales men---it was not an all around good experience. We ended up with a used Toyota Corolla. It is silver and has about 25000 miles on it. We settled for it after failed negotiations with the Nissan dealership and Hyundai dealership. Those are stories I’ll tell you in person sometime . . . no need to recount them here. Overall, we got a car and I can now drive myself to and from classes!
Yesterday, I had my first Christian Education class and I LOVED IT! Dr. Shelley Cunningham is the professor for most of the teaching emphasis courses and I’m really excited to learn from her and take as many courses with her as possible. The class I’m taking is 873 Faculty Development in Christian Higher Education. I have no experience in this area but I’m looking forward to learning about it for potential future use! I’ll keep you posted on how that goes as well!
Today, I am reading and preparing for classes and then I have my third, and final, fall course at 3pm (PST). It is a research class . . . So I’m not thrilled about it but it is a necessary evil for Christian Education. I’ll also let you know how that all pans out!
We are settling in more and more but still miss all of you! Please continue to pray for us! We are still looking for a church. We have visited three so far. Nothing wrong with any of them . . . They just don’t feel like home . . .
--Megan
Sunday, August 22, 2010
Pieces Coming Together
Friday was an all around good day! Chris had his first job interview with Vineyard Christian School and has another interview at Riverside Polytechnic High School on Monday (I’ll let him give you the details). We also, finally, got our IKEA items (see the pictures below) and our fridge (pictures also below)! And we were finally able to do some grocery shopping!
As if that isn’t enough good news . . . We also received our first package today (see photo’s below) from our favorite group of teenagers and their leaders (i.e. Dena and Jenna)!
The package included a homemade card, Blitz Week video, some cute decorative items: a door hanger, tea light holder, and tea lights (from my favorite: Yankee Candle). There were also t-shirts for Chris and me: pink Carolina Girl for me (glad to know it is official---the South Carolinians will claim me), orange Clemson for him! And there was even a little something for Mo! He sniffed it out WAY before we opened the package! I just assumed he smelled familiar people on the box . . . Wrong.
We all LOVE, LOVE, LOVE our surprises! Thank you so much for thinking of us! We definitely did not expect it! It topped off an already fabulous day and made me think of and really, really, really miss you all! Now, if only our other belongings would arrive!
P.S. I loved the Blitz Week video! The carousel pictures on bowling night were fantastic and I cannot believe McKenlee got in the big ball spinney-thing at Funtasia (I must know--did he throw up)?
--Megan
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| Here are all the IKEA boxes...I like their stuff, but be prepared to spend "hours" piecing it all together! |
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| The completed sleeper sofa. The bottom pulls out to make a full size sleeping area. So we now have a place for visitors to sleep. |
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| The completed bookshelf and desk. We turned the dining room into an "office", since we don't have a table of any kind. |
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| We can finally buy groceries..which we did. Megan has turned into quite the bargain shopper. Even though we went to four total grocery stores, we saved around $100 total! Gotta love coupons! |
As if that isn’t enough good news . . . We also received our first package today (see photo’s below) from our favorite group of teenagers and their leaders (i.e. Dena and Jenna)!
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| The box was a little beat up, but Mo knew right away that something in there belonged to him. |
The package included a homemade card, Blitz Week video, some cute decorative items: a door hanger, tea light holder, and tea lights (from my favorite: Yankee Candle). There were also t-shirts for Chris and me: pink Carolina Girl for me (glad to know it is official---the South Carolinians will claim me), orange Clemson for him! And there was even a little something for Mo! He sniffed it out WAY before we opened the package! I just assumed he smelled familiar people on the box . . . Wrong.
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| We miss you all too! |
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| All of our great gifts! Thanks everyone! And Mo loved the bone... |
--Megan
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
Blogs Don't Work Without the Internet
**This is an entry from Megan that was suppose to be uploaded on Thursday, August 12th. The absence of the Internet has delayed it until today...
Today marks nearly a week and a half since we began our cross-country trek; and nearly a week since we arrived in CA. Quite a bit has transpired since we first left SC . . . However, I am learning more and more as the days pass that some things seem to follow you no matter where you go . . . Allow me to explain.
Since the moment of my call experience there have been three distinct parties of people:
1. People that support, encourage, and walk with me in my calling.
2. People that have no interest in, whatsoever, or are indifferent to, the conversation centered on “being called.”
3. Those that seemed utterly shocked, awed, and amazed that a female could be called to ministry! (Gasp)!
Through the duration of our travels, and since my time here in CA, I have encountered all of the above. I must admit, at first, I was a bit shocked to find so many people, here in CA, that assumed Chris was the one going to school instead of me. After all, this is supposed to be the more liberal coast! I suppose prejudices follow us everywhere and we too find ourselves discovering prejudices of our own as we experience those that belong to others.
Nevertheless, those that ask why I’m here and reply with, “Oh,” a look of utter shock, or a polite, “I see,” simply remind me that struggles and differences are everywhere. Yet, in the midst of it all there are always those that respond with: “Good for you!” or “That’s awesome!” or “Great, I’ll be praying for you.”
Aside from my ministerial call-related experiences I am also discovering that the term: “Clean,” has many different definitions. As many of you know, I am a bit of a neat freak (I know, understatement of the century). Along our journey we have experienced places that were, well, not quite up to my expectations, those that were close enough, and those that were nearly perfect! Likewise, our apartment search produced the same selection. Hopefully, barring anything unusual, we will have the keys to one of the “close enough” properties tomorrow! More details, and pictures, to come at that time.
Now, on to the reason we came on this crazy, memory-making, stress-producing journey in the first place: Talbot School of Theology. Upon our arrival Friday August 6 Chris and I took a self-given tour of the campus and just walked around a bit. I also scheduled an “official” tour for Wednesday August 11 with the PhD department administrative assistant, Tanya Wheeldon.
Yesterday, we drove the 10 or so minutes from our Extended Stay and took an “official” tour with Tanya. She was extremely helpful and we discovered there was more to the campus than we initially anticipated. I also had a chance to grace the Financial Aid office and was surprised to discover that things were easily ironed out and my tuition is now fully financed via a scholarship, grant, and student loans--YAY! There are kind, helpful, God-fearing people that work in Financial Aid Departments, imagine that!
To conclude this crazy week . . . We have ordered a fridge, bookshelf/desk unit, and pull-out sofa. Thankfully, familiar places to shop followed us across the country as well: Home Depot, Lowe's, Sears, JCPenny, IKEA, etc. So, with all that in mind, make plans to come visit us soon! We would love to see some familiar faces and show you around Southern California (or at least the part we have discovered)!
--Megan
Today marks nearly a week and a half since we began our cross-country trek; and nearly a week since we arrived in CA. Quite a bit has transpired since we first left SC . . . However, I am learning more and more as the days pass that some things seem to follow you no matter where you go . . . Allow me to explain.
Since the moment of my call experience there have been three distinct parties of people:
1. People that support, encourage, and walk with me in my calling.
2. People that have no interest in, whatsoever, or are indifferent to, the conversation centered on “being called.”
3. Those that seemed utterly shocked, awed, and amazed that a female could be called to ministry! (Gasp)!
Through the duration of our travels, and since my time here in CA, I have encountered all of the above. I must admit, at first, I was a bit shocked to find so many people, here in CA, that assumed Chris was the one going to school instead of me. After all, this is supposed to be the more liberal coast! I suppose prejudices follow us everywhere and we too find ourselves discovering prejudices of our own as we experience those that belong to others.
Nevertheless, those that ask why I’m here and reply with, “Oh,” a look of utter shock, or a polite, “I see,” simply remind me that struggles and differences are everywhere. Yet, in the midst of it all there are always those that respond with: “Good for you!” or “That’s awesome!” or “Great, I’ll be praying for you.”
Aside from my ministerial call-related experiences I am also discovering that the term: “Clean,” has many different definitions. As many of you know, I am a bit of a neat freak (I know, understatement of the century). Along our journey we have experienced places that were, well, not quite up to my expectations, those that were close enough, and those that were nearly perfect! Likewise, our apartment search produced the same selection. Hopefully, barring anything unusual, we will have the keys to one of the “close enough” properties tomorrow! More details, and pictures, to come at that time.
Now, on to the reason we came on this crazy, memory-making, stress-producing journey in the first place: Talbot School of Theology. Upon our arrival Friday August 6 Chris and I took a self-given tour of the campus and just walked around a bit. I also scheduled an “official” tour for Wednesday August 11 with the PhD department administrative assistant, Tanya Wheeldon.
Yesterday, we drove the 10 or so minutes from our Extended Stay and took an “official” tour with Tanya. She was extremely helpful and we discovered there was more to the campus than we initially anticipated. I also had a chance to grace the Financial Aid office and was surprised to discover that things were easily ironed out and my tuition is now fully financed via a scholarship, grant, and student loans--YAY! There are kind, helpful, God-fearing people that work in Financial Aid Departments, imagine that!
To conclude this crazy week . . . We have ordered a fridge, bookshelf/desk unit, and pull-out sofa. Thankfully, familiar places to shop followed us across the country as well: Home Depot, Lowe's, Sears, JCPenny, IKEA, etc. So, with all that in mind, make plans to come visit us soon! We would love to see some familiar faces and show you around Southern California (or at least the part we have discovered)!
--Megan
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